Ans:- Please understand that the hormone from the gonads, especially testosterone stimulates the oil-producing glands attached next to the hair. This leads to oil secretion, causing hair to become oily and sticky within hours of a wash. Since the oil comes from within, any amount of oil added from above will not change the nature of hair. The added oil will only make the hair stickier.
Ans:- Hair is made of a protein, called Keratin. Excessive washing or using shampoo frequently tends to take away moisture out of hair, therefore making it dry and frizzy. A similar thing will happen if you wash your hands often. Hands will become dry. Likewise, hair becomes difficult to comb and unmanageable if you wash your hair frequently. Applying oil or a conditioner tends to return moisture.
Ans:- If eating food directly causes acne, then please understand that you are eating the same food as everyone else in the family. They should all be getting acne, but it does not happen. Although there are studies to suggest that if you consume lots of dairy products or take high-calorie food, then you may trigger acne indirectly through hormonal mechanisms. The point is, stick to a balanced diet.
Ans:- It is true that Pimples mostly occurs in the adolescence. But not everybody gets the same grade of Pimples. Put this way; it means that individuals who get painful, red, inflamed, pea-sized or more prominent pimples, need adequate treatment. If not given, the pimples will resolve, but leave behind long-lasting scars.
Hair distribution also changes. In both male and female, hair over the armpit and pubis transform thick terminal hair. The male, too, starts to grow terminal hair over the upper lip, beard region, and chest.
Ans:- It is not true. These are becoming prominent due to the work of a hormone. They do not have any mechanism to sense cutting, either by a blade or a safety razor. They will grow under the hormonal influence up to a length determined by heredity unless some hormonal upset happens. Example of such an upset will be growing of thick, dark hair over the upper lip or chin in a female.
Another important but less noticed change is the activation of apocrine sweat glands. These glands are present over the axillary and perineal region, where the appearance of sweat sees their action. Apocrine glands put out an odorless sweat, which is acted upon by bacteria present nearby to produce odor. If hygiene is not given attention, then unpleasant odor and some minor infections can occur.
Therefore, we see that Adolescence is a tender phase of transition in life. It needs to be understood scientifically. There is no need to be baffled by the changes experienced in the body. Everything is explainable rationally, through science.
Ans:- No, Unsafe sexual contact is a way of getting the infection. The infection can also spread through sharing of injections and needles, through transfusion of illicit blood and blood products and it is also transmitted from an
Ans:- Infact, STIs like Syphilis, Chancroid, Gonorrhoea are treatable, while Herpes, HIV/AIDs are not curable. Although, there are drugs that can allow an infected person to live for the expected general life span.
Ans:- Kissing or sharing toilet or food does not usually transmit HIV/AIDS, barring very few and extreme conditions where open sores may create a potential route for transfer but then there should be open sores in the healthy perso
Ans:- Love is an intense feeling/emotion towards another person that comprises of intimacy, passion and commitment. Intimacy includes the feeling of closeness and connectedness with another person whereas passion includes romantic and sexual attraction for them. Commitment involves decision to remain with one another for a specified period of time that can be short term or long term.
Ans:- Dating in essence refers to going out on dates with a person/multiple people on a regular basis with the purpose of getting to know them. When two people are in the stage of dating, their aim is to assess each other’s suitability for a romantic long-term committed relationship. Relationship is the stage which comes after dating. Relationships are serious in nature, involving a higher degree of commitment, higher intensity of emotions and exclusivity.
Ans:- Teenagers find it difficult to understand their status or type of relationship they’re in as the lines defining different relationships are blurred. If you often find yourself wondering what your equation is with a person and are afraid to ask them the same, mentioned below are the most common types of relationships, which may help you in figuring out your relationship status:
Friendship is the most comfortable stage of any relationship. Most romantic relationships start with friendship. Friends can like each other but the components of passion and commitment in the romantic sense are absent.
Infatuation is based on strong physical attraction that includes the component of passion however the liking and commitment is absent. Crushes usually come under the category of infatuation. This can be a step leading towards romantic love if intimacy and commitment develop overtime. Otherwise, such a relationship may frizzle with time.
People who have bonded emotionally through intimacy and physical passion experience romantic love. Flings can also be categorized as romantic love since both the components are present but they don’t last longer than a few months.
Consummate love is the final aim of any romantic relationship. This type of love is complete with all three components of intimacy, passion and commitment. Partners of consummate love representing an ideal relationship try to overcome differences as they’re unable to be truly happy without each other.
Ans:- Signs of a Happy/Healthy Relationship
• You feel comfortable in revealing your authentic personality in front of your partner and don’t have to worry about them judging you harshly if you act in a certain manner.
• You feel secure with the relationship and don’t have the constant fear of your partner breaking up with you.
• You can walk up to your partner with ease and have a conversation with them about something that is bothering you and vice versa.
• Even during disagreement, you’re respectful towards each other and make sure not to be too harsh whilst arguing.
• Even though you’re very much in love with each other, you have interests outside the relationship and both of you understand that you don’t have to do everything together.
• You sincerely enjoy spending time with them and they feel the same way. Taking out time for each other seems effortless and even when it’s not, you want to make the effort nonetheless.
• Whenever you think about your future, they’re always a part of it and you truly love thinking about how your relationship can nourish ahead.
Signs of an Unhappy/Unhealthy Relationship
• You get easily bored around your partner. The thought of spending time with them does not excite you.
• You try to avoid seeing them often. You enjoy being alone or with your friends and family rather than in their company.
• You find yourself to be attracted to other prospective partners more than usual and often imagine how it would be to date someone else or perhaps no one at all.
• You don’t share much with your partner. When the two of you are unhappy, not only does your physical relationship suffer but you also find the emotional distance between you two, to be growing.
• You find your confidence and self-esteem to be reducing as the relationship progresses.
• You may feel tempted to go down the path of infidelity in order to feel loved and validated and to fulfill the needs that aren’t being met in your current relationship.
• You’re not comfortable being yourself around your partner. Perhaps they’re too judgmental and hold you back from embracing your true nature.
• You ponder over past feelings way too much. It is completely normal to miss the old days but if you focus too much on the past, it becomes evident that you’re unhappy with the current state your relationship is in.
• You don’t trust your partner or they don’t trust you and often argue over small matters, accusing each other of lying.
Ans:- Unconventional love and relationships refer to an emotional agreement between two or more individuals, which does not conform to the general norm. These types of relationships are rare and unorthodox. The following are a few types of commonly known unconventional relationships:
• Long Distance Relationship
A long distance relationship is an intimate romantic relationship where the partners are geographically distanced from each other, making them unable to be face to face very often. These relationships are considered tough to maintain and generally don’t last very long for various reasons such as infidelity, lack of communication, poor prioritization of time, etc. The risk of being in a long distance relationship is that one or both partners may be infidel and unfaithful. This type of relationship may also give way to unnecessary fights, insecurities and more.
• Virtual Relationship
Technology and the internet play a significant role in virtual relationships. These are commonly known as online relationships, where the partners meet through social media and other platforms on the internet and continue their relationship through the same technological medium. These relationships can also be platonic in nature where the individuals involved are just friends. While virtual relationships seem just as passionate as any other romantic relationship, they too have a set of drawbacks and risks. Virtual relationships set the base for kidnappings, cyber stalking, online bullying, etc.
• Relationships with a Significant Age Gap
These are relationships where there is a huge gap between the ages of the partners. These relationships are very common but still frowned upon in the society. Though there is not much difference between relationships deemed appropriate and relationships with age gaps in terms of intimacy, commitment and passion but the latter is still considered tough to maintain as there is usually a difference in levels of maturity. This difference is a risk involved in this type of a relationship since you as a teenager may have certain fantasies which cloud your judgment whereas your partner because of their age may be more mature and practical towards the relationship because of which you may face ideological disparities in the relationship.
• Multiple People in a Relationship
These relationships are considered to be polyamorous in nature. In such a relationship, three or more partners are in love with one another. This relationship does not conform to the basic characteristic of two people committed to each other. In a polyamorous relationship, more than two people are involved. Some may define such a relationship as a successful love triangle, though the number of partners does not have to necessarily be restricted to three. In this type of a relationship, the risk factor of bias toward one partner becomes highly probable, as a result of which, it becomes hard to sustain the relationship.
• Para-social Relationships
Para-social relationships are always one sided where a person falls in love with a fictional character from books, movies, TV shows, video games, etc. The emotions involved in these relationships may be as strong as those of any romantic relationship. However, the practicality of such a relationship is lost since the characters cannot interact with the person in a human way. The major risk involved in this type of love is that it prevents you from having a real time relationship with another person as no one can match up to the level of perfection your favorite character has.
An intense love towards one’s favorite celebrity is common but this love rarely develops into a romantic relationship. This kind of love can rarely ever attain the perfect stage of romance and can easily be characterized as unhealthy obsession. It is risky to be in this kind of love since the likelihood of the celebrity loving you back is miniscule and will only hurt or ignore your feelings.
• Open Relationship
In an open relationship, the partners involved in a romantic commitment have consented not to stay exclusive with each other. The partners in an open relationship may date and indulge in sexual relations with other people while still being committed to their partner. Open relationship involve the biggest risks of love and dating. It is very easy for partners to get jealous, possessive and argumentative over other sexual partners. They may also take impulsive decision in anger that could seriously harm individuals, both socially and physically.
Ans:- Dating a friend’s ex comes with a moral conundrum. On one hand, you want to pursue the person you’re interested in and on the other, you want to keep your friendship, all of this without hurting your friend’s emotions. The following are a few things you need to keep in mind before deciding to date a friend’s ex:
• Talk to your friend.The most important thing here is to make sure your friend is comfortable with you dating their ex and that it wouldn’t hurt your friendship.
• Don’t try to control the equation between your friend and their ex. Very often, in situations like these, you become the mediator, wherein you make it your responsibility to make them share a healthy exchange of conversation. You must learn to respect each individual’s boundaries and not force them to talk if they do not wish to.
• Be sure not to make any comparisons. While dating a friend’s ex, you may find yourself in situations where you want to ask your partner or tell your friend if you’re better or worse in certain aspects of dating. This may seem harmless but has a lot of drawbacks as it may annoy your partner or hurt your friend’s feelings.
• Don’t be paranoid about your relationship. While dating your friend’s ex you may experience instances where you feel jealous and insecure if your friend and your partner still talk and are close. You may fear that they still have feelings for each other and that your relationship may not survive but the course of action here should be to let your feelings known to your partner and your friend, seeking reassurance.
• Avoid prying into their relationship. In a situation like this, you may feel the urge to ask your friend or your partner about past details of their relationship. Try to avoid this as your curiosity may make both the parties uncomfortable. If they do not wish to talk about something that was a part of their relationship, try to understand their reasons and do not pressurize either of them.
• Understand that there are some exes who you must not date. There may be an ex of your friend who you find extremely attractive or have genuine feelings for them but you should take into account their relationship. If your friend was seriously mistreated and abused by their ex or was devastated and heartbroken when the relationship ended, it’s probably not a good idea to date that person. Not only will it land you in an awkward situation with the person but it might also end your friendship as they question your loyalty.
Ans:- Dating seems like a great idea when you’re a teenager. Everyone around you is dating someone, even if they’re not familiar with the concept. You may even feel left out if you’re not dating anyone. It has almost become a social compulsion to be with someone, paying no regard to your emotional choices and surprisingly, most of us give in to this compulsion. If you’re thinking about dating someone or already are in the process, mentioned below are a few risks which come with dating at an early age that you should evaluate:
• When you’re a teenager, it is very easy to develop unrealistic expectations from the person you’re dating and your relationship. If these expectations aren’t met, you’re bound to experience emotional turmoil. This may hamper your mental health and damage your happiness.
• It’s a known fact that most parents are not very supportive of their kids dating at a very early age and for good reason. If you keep your dating life a secret from your parents and they still find out, they may be unsupportive, force you to break up with your partner and you may lose their trust.
• As mentioned above, your parents may not support you when you’re dating someone and so to keep dating them you may have to lie to them which can make you foster feelings of regret and guilt as a result of lying to them. Also, your relationship may not develop to its full potential since you won’t be able to introduce your partner to your parents.
• When you’re dating someone, you tend to think about them a lot. They occupy a major part of your mind and time. This may result in you losing focus and concentration in your studies which will ultimately lead to bad grades in school and disappointment.
• When you’re dating someone, you share an intimate bond with them and as time passes, the level of intimacy increases takes a physical form in most cases. If you develop a physical relationship very soon, you may have unplanned and unprotected sex with your partnerwhich can cause teenage pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases and other health hazards.
Ans:- Many people choose to keep their romantic relationships secrets socially for various reasons. The experience of keeping their romance a secret is unique to everyone. Some people thoroughly enjoy it while others find it to be terrible. Though there is no way of finding what kind of an experience you may have, a few easily recognized drawbacks have been mentioned below to help you decide against keeping your relationship a secret.
• Your freedom may be sabotaged by secrecy. If you keep your relationship a secret, you and your partner will always have to be on the lookout. The two of you will have to sneak around all the time and be cautious while answering calls. You also won’t be able to go out on dates without the fear of someone seeing you two together.
• Keeping things secret may be a sign of lack of commitment. If the suggestion of keeping things secretive was made by your partner and not you, give yourself time to think about why they do not want to make your relationship public. They could have commitment issues or be interested in someone else. Also, if your relationship goes down an unfortunate path, your partner can easily deny the existence of the relationship since they hadn’t told their family and friends and the two of you are the only people who knew about it.
• If you wish to keep your relationship a secret from your parents because you’re afraid of their disapproval, you may miss out on the wise counsel they can provide. Perhaps, you’re scared that your parents will be angry and disappointed when they learn of your relation and so you decide to keep it a secret from them but in doing so, what you fail to understand is that your parents are much wiser and more experienced than you, they may able to guide you and warn you against any red flags.
• The two of you won’t get the right chance to nurture your relationship and take it into the right direction if you keep it secret from those around you.
If you still think your reasons for keeping the relationship secret are unavoidable and you want to hide it, the most important thing to keep in mind is not display your affection towards them publicly. Do not post any pictures with them on social media and always be at a socially appropriate physical distance from each other.
Ans:- SexualOrientationrefersto a person’s preference towards a gender(s) in terms of physical and emotional arousal.
As one steps into adolescence, they undergo major physical, sexual, mental and emotional changes. It is only natural for an adolescent to feel confused about these changes. Confusion over one’s sexual orientation is perhaps the most common experience for teenagers. Almost all adolescents foster doubts regarding their sexuality. If you find yourself to be attracted to a gender which isn’t the normative opposite sex, you must not panic or feel ashamed. Do not try to suppress your emotions considering these feelings taboo as they come with the hormonal changes of puberty.
It will probably take you long time to figure out your true sexual orientation which may change at any given time in the future. Sexuality is fluid in nature and it is completely normal to be attracted to the same gender, multiple genders or no gender at all.
Mentioned below is a list of some of the commonly known sexual orientations, which can be helpful in figuring out your sexuality:
• Heterosexuality. This is the most common sexual orientation and generally considered as the norm in more orthodox societies of the world. Heterosexual people are attracted physically and emotionally to members of the opposite sex. Men/Boys are attracted to Women/Girls and vice versa. A casual term for being heterosexual is “straight”
• Homosexuality. People who are emotionally and physically attracted to people of the same sex as them are called homosexual. Homosexuality has been treated like a taboo in a major part of the world for a very long time. Men who are interested in other men are commonly called “gay” and women who are interested in other women are called “lesbians” in casual language.
• Bisexuality. This sexual orientation refers to people who are physically and emotionally attracted to both men and women. Research suggests that bisexual people have an easier time publicly accepting their sexual identity as compared to people who are homosexual.
• Pan Sexuality. People who come under this category do not experience emotional and physical attraction towards others based on their gender and sexual identities. These people can be attracted to anyone regardless of their gender and sex.
• Asexuality. Peoplewho are asexual do not experience any kind of physical or romantic attraction towards members of any gender or sex. These people are attracted to no one or rarely experience attraction towards someone.
An important thing to keep in mind is that you cannot have a definite idea about your sexual orientation until you have a proper sexual relationship with someone. Being physically intimate with a person is of huge help when you’re trying to figure out your sexuality.
Ans:- A lot of difficulties ranging from jealousy and other interpersonal struggles to dating violence and relationship related depression, that adolescents face are centered to romanticrelationships.One of these difficulties which is the hardest to deal with is rejection. Rejection refers to turning down a person’s proposal for affection. Being rejected by someone you love or want to date is extremely hurtful, especially when you’re a teenager. You’re filled with self-doubt and it doesn’t help when a person says they don’t like you back and don’t want to be associated with you romantically.
While rejection is a horrible feeling and no one wishes to experience it, often the fear of rejection can hold people back from truly being happy with someone. The following are a couple of tips that you should keep in mind in order not to let fear control the expression of your romantic feelings:
• If you seek reassurance and don’t want to go up to your crush/the person you love directly to express your feelings, you should go to a friend, family member or anyone you’re close with and let your feelings known to them. By confiding in them, you may receive the reassurance you need and may feel confident enough to express your affection openly.
• If you’re afraid of public humiliation as a result of rejection, be sure to tell no one about your feelings except for the person you’re interested in. Ask them out on a date when they’re alone so that even if they say no, you won’t be at the risk of feeling ashamed in front of others.
If you have recently been rejected by someone, you’re probably having difficulties in dealing with it. It is only understandable that you’re unhappy and feel sad for yourself. You may even experience self-loathing and pity on yourself. Although it is normal to be like this, it is definitely not health. As a result of this sadness, your mental health and in some manner, physical health are likely to suffer. To help you with this, mentioned below are a few tips suggesting you can deal with rejection:
• Give yourself time to grieve. You may be tempted to come out of sadness extremely fast and heal as quickly as possible, which is understandable. However, that isn’t the correct way to deal with things. You must realize that as humans, we must grieve naturally and not force or control our emotions.
• Understand their reasons.Being rejected by someone we like is a terrible feeling and it often clouds our judgment when someone says they don’t want to be with us. It can be hard to make sense of things and we may make the mistake of lashing out in unjustifiable anger. In such a situation, you must learn to keep calm and for your own benefit. Try to understand their reasons. This will help in alleviating any negative feelings and take your mind off of the sadness.
• Don’t wait around. We often make the mistake of misinterpreting someone’s answer and end up thinking that they are just reluctant to be with and that it doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t want to date you. We create a sort of bubble that protects our feelings and wait around for the person to start liking you. This more often than not leads to even worse heartbreak.
• Avoid talking to the person for a while. When you like someone, you want to talk them most of the time, even if they’re romantically interested in you because just being around them gives you a sense of happiness. However, this is unhealthy for your emotional health and you should try distancing yourself from the person for a while in order to strengthen yourself and not be dependent on your need of feeling validated by their presence.
• Don’t try to guilt them.You may be tempted to make them feel bad for rejecting you and hence you might try to deliberately be sad in front of them. Perhaps you want to make them feel bad so that they will come to comfort and talk to you or you want to do so out of spite. Either way, this tactic will not help you succeed in being with them and will only do more harm to the relationship the two of you share.
• Focus on your education. When you’re trying to heal from rejection, the best way to cope is to distract yourself and direct your concentration elsewhere. Use the heartbreak as motivation to study harder. This will make you more accepted in another and equally important part of your life.
• Focus on other relationships of your life. Romantic involvement isn’t the only relationship you should focus on. To take your mind off of rejection, concentrate on strengthening your relations with family members, friends, neighbors, colleagues. Etc.
• Start dating someone else. Rejection causes heartache, undoubtedly and you must take an appropriate amount of time to heal. But, moving on is the final step of dealing with heartbreak. When you develop an interest in someone else, the foul memory of rejection will face on its own accord.
Ans:- Respect, trust and consideration for your partner are characteristics of a happy and stable relationship.The lack or absence of these qualities can be identified as an abusive relationship. Characteristics like mistreatment, disrespect, intense jealousy, controlling behavior, or physical violence are frequent or perhaps permanent in abusive relationships.
If you experience most or all of the above mentioned acts, you’re the victim of an abusive relationship and you shouldn’t suffer. If you think your partner is abusive towards you, talk to someone you trust and tell them about the situation. It would be in your best interest to end the relationship and take legal action against your partner.
Types of Abuse
Any kind of abuse in a relationship (romantic or otherwise) can be broadly divided into three categories. Refer to the following to identify if you’re experiencing any one or all three of these:
• Physical Abuse. Any unwanted and intentional contact with you or your surroundings which may or may not hurt you or cause pain but considered unhealthy is physical abuse. This includes, pushing you, pulling your hair, hitting you, physically restraining you from going somewhere, forcing you to perform sexual acts and forcing you to have sex without your consent, scratching, punching, biting, strangling or kicking you, your pets or your family members, destroying objects, clothing, furniture or electronics around you, etc.
• Emotional Abuse. Emotionalabuse comes in forms like threats, intimidation, putdowns, controlling behavior, betrayal, etc. This type of abuse is often hard to recognize. In emotional abuse, your partner puts you down, makes you feel unwanted, acts overly possessive, becomes extremely jealous, accuses you of cheating and lying, loses temper frequently, humiliates you, gives threats of self-harm, makes you feel guilty for things you haven’t done, etc.
• Digital Abuse. This type of abuse refers to the usage of technological advancements and social networking to facilitate bullying, harassment, stalking, etc. In a digitally abusive relationship, your partner monitors your online activity through social media, uses GPS to track your location often, insists that you provide him/her with all your passwords and secure digital details, sends you lewd messages, photos and videos, controls who you contact with and looks through your phone on a regular basis.
Ans:- Break Ups leave individuals with a void that extremely hard to fill. After a recent breakup, you become heartbroken and wish to heal from the pain in a healthy manner as soon as possible. It does not matter which partner has ended the relationship as both the partners had invested physically and emotionally in the relationship and would hate for it not to work out. Mentioned below are a few ways in you can cope with a serious break up and focus on your mental health:
• Give yourself physical and emotional space. Avoid going to places where you may bump into your ex. Avoid talking to them and being in their presence. You’re obviously hurt by the breakup being around them will only add to the heartache. Your avoidance won’t be characterized as immaturity as you are completely within your rights to prioritize your emotional well-being over social protocol.
• Remind yourself why the relationship was bad for you. As time passes, you may be tempted to reminisce the memories of your relationship if you miss your ex. In such situations, remind yourself about all the things that made you unhappy when you were with your partner. Try to redirect your energy towards the negative aspects of your commitment. People may say that it is wrong to be fixated on the past and have a pessimistic approach in life but this method is extremely effective and helpful to a great extent.
• Change the aura of your lifestyle. You may feel comfortable with your habits and surroundings but it is important to make some changes in order to feel better. The breakup has brought a setback in your life and to catch up and be up to speed with others, you should make the positive things around be more visible. You can do this by updating your wardrobe, picking up a new hobby, redecorating your room, etc.
• Try to live a healthy life. You can start running or perhaps choose a sport you like and pursue it as a source of motivation to start your days. This is an exceptional way to let out all the pent up frustration and anger. You should also start meditating. Meditation has scientifically proven physical health benefits, also helps a great deal in calming the mind and improving concentration.
• Consider therapy from a mental health professional. There is a significant difference between sharing your feelings with a friend or family member and a designated therapist. Talking about your emotions with someone who does not personally know you is substantially beneficially. They can give you unbiased advice and help you heal from the agony of a breakup.